Some couples think that being married won’t change anything in their relationship, but even if your physical situation stays the same after tying the knot, there will still be some surprises in store. Here’s what a few new brides say they learned during their first year of marriage.
Sometimes you will go to bed angry - Engaged women always hear “never go to bed angry” and while it’s a great goal, it’s not realistic. “There’s going to be conflict,” says Amanda, a recent bride. “Sometimes going to bed angry is okay. When you wake up, usually things don’t feel as bad.
You might disagree over the future - You might find you and your spouse have different ideas about finances, goals, and where you want to raise your children. Being upfront and honest can help, according to one recent bride.
Set your own expectations - Another bride says that learning to ignore everyone else’s expectations of what her union would look like and moving forward their own way as a couple was really valuable.
Celebrate your first year of marriage - When newlywed Rachel and her husband couldn’t take a big honeymoon right after the wedding, they took lots of little “honeymoonettes” - small trips throughout their first year of being married - and loved it.
Make time for yourself - “It’s crucial to carve out time for yourself and your friends at least once a month,” recent bride Lisa “It’s all about balance and you’re not a bad wife for not spending every waking moment with your new husband.”
Learn how to handle family issues - Another new bride says one of the most important things she learned the first year of being married is to let her husband deal with his family and she’ll handle hers because it helps everyone avoid conflict.
Don’t try to “win” arguments - Disagreeing isn’t about proving the other person wrong, it’s about solving the issue and moving forward, so don’t see it as a competition, Milissa, a recent bride says. “If you keep trying to make your point or “win” the argument for your own pride, it’ll only make the issue worse.”