The more you do something, the less exciting it becomes … and it’s even true for sex. There are all kinds of ways to try to spice things up in the bedroom, like switching up the timing, location, and positions, but one less obvious fix could be to just take a break. It’s called a “sex fast” and sex and relationship experts say that it can actually be good for your sex life long-term.
But there’s more to it than just suddenly cutting your partner off. Going on a sex fast is something you plan to do together by pressing pause on your sex life to give you time for a reset. And when the break is over, your sexual connection is supposed to be stronger than ever. Think of it as a “Dry January” for sex, even though it doesn’t have to be a whole month long.
And there are different ways to do a sex fast. Aside from just stopping all forms of sex, a fast could just mean not engaging in certain acts and focusing on different kinds of intimacy instead. You and your partner get to make the rules based on what’s comfortable for you.
- It’s also not something all couples need. Sex therapist and psychologist Dr. Laurie Mintz points out that there are “real physical, emotional and relational benefits of sex,” so if your sex life leaves nothing to be desired, there’s no reason to put it on hold.
- But if you’re having feel-good sex with your partner that’s just not as satisfying or exciting as it used to be or you think it could be, a break may be a good solution. Sex coach Zoë Kors says taking sex off the table lets you focus on your emotional and non-sexual physical connection and could make things that much hotter after the fast ends.
Source: Well and Good
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