We’ve always been told to “never settle for second best” in life — and more specifically in relationships, but “settling” happens way more than we probably like to admit.
- Just look at the Netflix show, “Love Is Blind.” The messy reality dating show was labeled as a “social experiment” where couples paired off with people they met through a wall with the goal of falling in love and getting engaged. If the feelings weren’t mutual, we saw a few singles propose to their “second choice.” And for at least one couple, it totally worked!
According to the “Huffington Post”, here’s the problem with “the one”:
- We believe we all have a soul mate and we believe it’s only one person.
- Our first-round picks aren’t always the most stable. In other words, we can fall harder for someone in the beginning who might not be suitable for us in the long run.
- Someone who might consider “the one” might be unavailable. This could mean they’re in a relationship with someone else or they live on the other side of the country.
So when all of this is realized, you might end up with your “second choice”. Here’s how to make sure your “second choice” is your best choice:
- Don’t feed into the idea of them as your second choice. Sarah Spencer Northey, a marriage and family therapist, says “when things get tough in your current relationship, it’s easy to idealize the ex as the one you should really be with, but that is seldom the case. ‘The one that got away,’ got away for a reason.”
- Actively choose your partner and prioritize each other
- Your second choice should naturally become your first choice and your best choice as time goes on.
Source: Huffington Post
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