For the last 20 years, Amy Andersen has been a matchmaker setting people up with millionaires, earning her the title, “Cupid of Silicon Valley.” While many of her clients are rich, her services don’t come cheap and she charges VIPs hundreds of thousands of dollars. And it’s not all men, she says about a third of her wealthy clients are women “who are looking for love, no matter their suitor’s net worth.”
Based on her two decades of matchmaking, these are Amy Andersen’s rules for dating and marrying an ultra-wealthy person:
- Have your own set of accomplishments - She doesn’t mean a massive bank account, just something you’ve done on your own, like a career or a personal goal you’ve reached. It shows that you have your own interests and motivations and that you’re not looking for a partner only for their money, the expert shares.
- Be prepared to sign an NDA - Andersen says all of her high-profile clients require all potential matches to sign non-disclosure agreements before they meet. That way, they get to share more of themselves on dates. And once they reach the serious “we’re getting engaged” relationship status, the matchmaker says that’s when the prenup talk typically happens.
- You may need to be discreet - Very rich folks value privacy and have a lifestyle that doesn’t draw too much attention, so she says you may need to “let your social accounts go dark and not flaunt the lifestyle that their money affords you.” If you’re not into that, one of her VIPs may not be right for you.
- Have your own personal life - “Before even meeting a potential partner, you should already have a baseline of happiness from within,” Andersen explains. “Focus on your friendships, your family relationships and your relationship with yourself.”
- Be flexible - A lot of wealthy types have complex lives, including divorces, stressful business transactions, complicated relationships with their kids and what the matchmaker calls “a whole lot of drama.” So you need to be ready for last-minute changes to plans and packed schedules, and have a trusted inner circle to vent to.
- Have a prenup - Divorces can be incredibly expensive, especially the lawyer fees. Having a prenuptial agreement can protect you if it doesn’t work out.
Source: CNBC
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